Here's what we discovered as we asked numerous couples. And somewhere along the way it might seem that you love us just as we are, but rarely does it work out that way. Now, he just hangs out at home. I have a buddy that has plans to attend a Nicholas Sparks book signing so he can tell the man to knock IT off! It s a specific example, but a common problem. There is a female drive to get answers to questions like, What are we?, Are we exclusive yet?, Are we going to get married?